For the past few Tuesdays, Oprah and her best friend Gayle have been sharing their travel diaries of a cross country road trip they took this summer. Today she showed an interview that they had with an Amish couple. She and Gayle seemed genuinely surprised by the fact that premarital sex is not encouraged in their culture, that divorce is not viewed as an option in marriage, and that these people are, as they claim, “100% content”. View the clip here. (Click on The “100 Percent” Question).
Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King, there are a few things I would like to say to you.
These wonderful people that you interviewed may be a minority when it comes to their views, but let me assure you that the Amish are not the only people in the world who are content with their lives, have no tolerance for divorce, and only have sex with one person their entire life. It may come as a shock to you, but I am 22-year-old, married, and a mother of one. (For the record, I did not get pregnant with my son before I was married, as I did not have sex before I was married.) I am in complete agreement with Emily: the thought of having sex with only one person my entire life is not scary: thinking about having it with numerous people is what is scares me. Sex is not a kiss. A kiss is not a smile. These things are binding. They are not things you should share with just anyone. I’m not saying that the first person you kiss is the one you better marry, but every piece of yourself that you give away is a piece you can never get back. One needs to be careful how they give themself away. Many people would say that at 20 I got married too young. Why is that? Because I won’t be able to play the field? I’m not sure if that’s the answer, but if it is, it doesn’t matter to me. I have found the man of my dreams, and we will be together until we die. Divorce is not an option, as God’s Word plainly states. Does that make me feel trapped? Not at all. It is the most freeing feeling in the world, because I am loved no matter what! I am secure in my relationship with my husband. And do you know what that makes me feel?