Brick Wall

I like this photo. I like the contrast of the old wall against the twinkling lights in the distance. They give me hope.

I’ve been feeling lately like I’ve hit a brick wall. I am so unmotivated. I don’t want to plan meals, I don’t want to cook, I don’t want to do laundry, or clean up, or keep the budget on track, because I’m tired and it’s all so messy, and it’s going to just get messy again. Messy. That’s life I guess.

What do you do though, when you hit a brick wall? What do you do when motivation just can’t be found? How do you just keep doing the stuff that needs doing, when you don’t want to do it?

5 Responses to “Brick Wall”

  1. Kendall Says:

    Practically? I pick a small “accomplish-able” (word?) goal and get ‘er done (like tidying one bathroom)… just so I can see something finished. It helps to tackle the bigger projects later on.

    Otherwise, if things can wait – let them wait. Not only did you get several teeth ripped out of your moth (blunt, right?), but you’re recovering from who-knows-what kind of virus.

    I say recruit Allison W. for the day, grab some hats, sunscreen, twizzlers, juice boxes and chocolate chip cookies – then head for a splash pool. (There used to be a lovely little one just by where we lived off McKercher – behind the catholic school on Degeer St.) :) It’s supposed to be +27 today! :-P

    That way, when the kids are happily wiped-out, fed, and in bed early, you can get some of those nagging jobs done.

    (Btw: my plan for today is: Lake, “treat” food, swimming, lots of sun – mac’n’cheese with hot dogs for supper, a quick bath – and then while she sleeps I’ll get caught up on my laundry, dusting, etc. I can dish out the advice – but I take it, too… lol!)

  2. Becky Fehr Says:

    Get away. Even if it means going for a walk each morning or just taking a day off from the house and going some where fun and relaxing. Wanna go to Pike Lake with me:) Anyhow, I find if I get away from my mess and stress for a bit I come back ready to get at it. Brick walls jump up often on moms, you aren’t alone in the above sentiments. You keep on going and give yourself a break and pray for clarity and hope:)

  3. Kim Says:

    Sounds like you girls are on the same wavelength – thanks for your words. We often have such unrealistic expectations of ourselves…you’re right Kendall, I did just get 3 teeth yanked out and haven’t been feeling well – a little grace for myself is not out of place here.
    Clay’s home sick this week, so we’ve been hanging out around here with him, but I might try to put this “get out and do something fun” thing into practice next week – before my hectic end of week begins (baking a wedding cake). It’s just so hard to walk away from the mess and go do something fun, knowing that the mess has to be dealt with eventually….

  4. Dana Says:

    I totally agree. Sometimes you need to just take a day off. Reboot and then get back into it.
    Have you ever read the FlyLady website? She has some practical tips. Like setting the timer for 15 mins, doing one thing and then being done. I always find myself getting sidetracked because I see something else that needs doing and then feel overwhelmed. So just doing one task at a time makes it seem do-able.
    (She also talks a lot about Blessing your home and making sure you’re taking care of yourself as well)

    You have had a stressful last two weeks! Give yourself a break.
    I wish we could come meet you for a morning at the zoo or something!

    Take care and have a good weekend! I’ll pray for you :)
    Talk to you soon…

  5. Julie Cortens Says:

    “What do you do though, when you hit a brick wall? What do you do when motivation just can’t be found? How do you just keep doing the stuff that needs doing, when you don’t want to do it?”

    You have a melt down….. the kids look at you like you’ve lost it (because you have)…. you go into the bathroom and cry…… you apologize…. and then you get back at it and make supper.
    And when the last one graduates from high school you yell yippee and go find a million other things to do so you can keep having melt downs. It is just you learn to have them much more gracefully after 30 years.

    Check out the water park on 115th and Kellough. I see a lot of Moms with toddlers there getting through the afternoon and wearing out kids on a hot day. And it is perfectly fine to feed them hot dogs!

    And remember – this too shall pass……it will come around again.. but it will pass again too. hmmmm that sounds a little like labour… but look at the blessings!!!
    Love the photo!

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