Archive for July, 2011

Babies Don’t Keep

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

Mother, oh Mother,
come shake out your cloth,
empty the dustpan,
poison the moth,
hang out the washing
and butter the bread,
sew on a button and make up a bed.

Where is the mother whose house
is so shocking?
She’s up in the nursery,
blissfully rocking.
Oh, I’ve grown shiftless
as Little Boy Blue
(lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
(pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo).

The shopping’s not done
and there’s nothing for stew
and out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo
but I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo.
Look! Aren’t his eyes the most wonderful hue?
(lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).

The cleaning and scrubbing
will wait till tomorrow,
for children grow up,
as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs.
Dust go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep…

~Author Unknown ~

What Are They Catching?

Saturday, July 9th, 2011

Markus is processing a lot in his brain these days. We’ve had a few conversations in the last week that have made me stop and think.

M:Mommy, do you have a baby in your tummy again?
K: No sweetie, I don’t.
M: But you will again.
K: Well, I don’t know if I’ll have another baby.
M: Yeah, you will.
Then he jumped out of the van and ran inside.

Then there’s the conversation we had yesterday. I was getting things packed up for Markus, Wyatt, and Bailey to go camping with my parents.

M: Mommy, is Deacon coming too?
K: Well, he’s not going to the lake with you guys, but he needs to come along when I take you to Grandma and Grandpa’s. We can’t just leave him here – babies need to stay with their mommies.
M: Right, because he needs your milk…(thoughtful pause)…Does Grandma have breasts?
K: …Yes, Grandma has breasts.
M: So…could she feed Deacon?
K: Well, no. See, when a mommy gives birth and pushes a baby out, her body has special things called hormones that tell her breasts to make milk for the baby. Grandma hasn’t had a baby for a long time, so she doesn’t have any milk for babies.
M: Right, because you were her last baby. And now you are having babies. And if your last baby is a girl, then she can grow up and have babies too.
K: That’s right, but right now Deacon is our last baby.
M: Is he your last baby?
K: I don’t know. I don’t know if we will have more babies or not…do you think we should?
M: Yeah, because babies are lots of fun to have around. They’re fun to take care of.

Then he ran off to play, and I was left sitting on the stairs, stunned. Our conversation made me stop and wonder how much of what we teach our kids is caught, not taught. Markus is building his ideas about the value of family, and the blessing of children, and he’s doing it simply by observing what is happening around him. It makes me want to be so much more mindful of the things I do and say in my daily life, because it’s those things that have a lasting impression on my kids, and not the things I say when I’m in teacher-mode.

Postpartum Priorities

Thursday, July 7th, 2011

I know, I know. I’m supposed to sleep when the baby sleeps. It’s a lovely idea, if I can get the older 3 kids occupied with something and quiet enough to not be a distraction, and can turn my brain off enough to hopefully catch a few winks. Those are two very big if’s.

So what should I do if the big boys are quietly playing Wii, little girl is down for a nap, baby is sleeping, and I’m tired as all get out? I’m supposed to sleep. But I was also in desperate need of a shower. I had to weigh the two options, and in the end, decided I would feel more like a normal human being with clean hair than if I slept for an extra half hour.

Priorities, people.

My Heart Overflows

Saturday, July 2nd, 2011

Our beautiful son Deacon is here. He was born here at home on Monday, June 27 at 4:25pm. I’ll write more about his birth another day, but today I just want to gush about how awesome he is. I know I’ve done this whole having a baby thing three times before, but let me assure you that it does not get old. There is nothing old or over-familiar about having a newborn babe curl up on your chest. I know I have enjoyed each of the kids as babies, but I told Clay yesterday that it’s like it has taken me four kids to really appreciate the beauty of just being with my baby. To just sit with him, to experience the absolute peace and contentment he has when he is close to his mama. The world could be crashing down around me and I don’t know if I would notice. I could just sit with him all day, every day. He is so beautiful, so sweet, so perfect. I look at him and I just want to cry for this amazing gift that I’ve been given.

We’re slowly learning how to function as a family of six. It’s definitely a transition as we all figure out how this is going to work. Markus, Wyatt, and Bailey spent Deacon’s first three nights at my mom and dad’s house, and the day they came home happened to be the day my hormones crashed so I was a mess…but we’re doing better now. They are awesome big brothers and sister, and are doing so well with having a baby brother in the house.